My mom was married to a meanie for four years of my childhood. He was her second husband--a quick rebound after she and my dad divorced. He was a narcissistic a-hole who was verbally, and physically, abusive. Thankfully my mom and older step-brother shielded me from the grunt of his rage, he did take some … Continue reading Big Girls Don’t Cry (But Actually We Do Because We Are Human, So Deal With It)
Do you like aren't doing enough? I’ve been struggling with bouts of self-confidence issues lately, and I think it stems from feeling like I’m falling short. Society and the media tell us we need to do “x” number of things to be “productive” or feel like we worked hard enough on any given day. I … Continue reading For When You Don’t Feel Like You’re Doing Enough
Now that we are all working remotely (for now), I feel so much more “enmeshed” with my job. My typical work-life balance has been blurred, and in some cases obliterated. It was a sharp adjustment, last March, when we were all thrown into always-on WFH life. Work started to bleed into home life. And even months … Continue reading A Breakdown: The Problem With Basing Your Whole Identity on Your Career
COVID has changed things. Everything, actually. At the start of all this, I wanted different things--maybe move to NYC or London. I wanted to continue living the bustling city life. But in eight months I’ve done a complete 180. Those dreams will have to wait while I try something else in the meantime. Staying safe … Continue reading This Left Coaster Is Going Right: Why I’m Moving to Atlanta
Photo by Damon Hall from Pexels I'm not a patient person. I never have been. When I want something, I need to have it now. In fact, one of my earliest memories is my mom telling me to "be patient." I remember this vaguely because it was the first time I'd heard and understood what the word "patient" … Continue reading (Trying to) Practice Patience During COVID
Photo by Mithul Varshan from Pexels 8 months have come and gone and yet we still are. Ah quarantine, you ol' bastard. How I've (Unfortunately) Become More Materialistic I'm frugal. Not stingy, but let's just say I'm careful with how I spend my hard-earned money. I use my cash for experiences: Eating and drinking with friends. Day trips. … Continue reading This American Consumer Just Discovered Minimalism
Photo by Leigh Patrick from Pexels Welcome, all my beautiful, work-in-process perfectionists. Gather 'round, gather 'round. Do you ever get down on yourself for making a mistake? I do. And more often than I'd like to admit. I take a lot of pride in my work, and it is part of my job to be highly critical of the work … Continue reading Do You Have a Toxic Relationship With Perfectionism?
As far back as I can remember, I've had a love of language and words and stories. But, like so many people, I get in my own way: Fear. Self-doubt. Self-sabotage.
I'm unabashedly one of those people that loves self-improvement books, articles and advice. But, the problem is that I don't often incorporate the lessons into my life or change in any way. I'm trying to change that as I look for ways to decrease my anxiety and live a less-worrisome life. Here are the 5 … Continue reading You Live Some and You Learn Some: 5 Lessons I’m Trying to Abide by
For as far back as I can remember, I've been a worrier and over-thinker. Some of it was learned behavior, from close family members of mine, but, in retrospect, a lot of it was self-inflicted too. It reached an all-time high in college--I was a senior, studying, interning, trying to figure out my next step … Continue reading Confessions From a Fellow Anxiety Sufferer